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Posts Tagged ‘wheelchair’

Because I Say So….

I guess I could be positive and say, oh they are just trying to help, but I’m tired of people ALWAYS (at least feels like always) contradicting what I say or negatively commenting on something I ask their help with. Why is it okay to make someone feel like no matter what they say or no matter what they ask for is open to contradiction! Continue Reading Here

What is #Isolation

Being unable to do things and unable to go places with the “friends” you once had makes it very difficult to be social, hence comes social #isolation. Sadly after a life altering situation many, perhaps even most, people will eventually end up isolated and alone due to no fault of their own. Continue Reading Here

“Peaking” Into A New Year

With the new year fast approaching, everyone reflects on the year gone by and dreams of the year ahead. With my #paralysis in 2016, I sunk down into a very bad hole, I couldn’t see any future for 2017. Then as 2017 was coming to its closing, looking forward to 2018 didn’t seem much brighter. Continue Reading

#Advocate For #Family Restrooms

Today I read an interesting blog post titled A Bad Advocate With Good Intentions on the Help Codi Heal blog. As I read this post it occurred to me that almost every blog I have read by a paralyzed person, woman or man, talks about being an advocate for disabilities and/or a motivational speaker. Up until now I was thinking perhaps many become motivational speakers because it’s one of the few things they can do. I enjoyed Hedi’s post because I loved the honesty. And then it hit me, I think I too may be or could be a bad #advocate with good intentions. Continue Reading

A Girl’s Gotta Do What A Girl’s Gotta Do

A girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do right, and for me that means SHOPPING!

Seriously though, while I do like shopping, I’ve found that wearing jeans and slacks just aren’t as practical for me, not on a regular basis at least.  #Accessibility is not always about ramps for easy/accessible entry.  For me, dresses & skirts are my new “go to” attire. Read More

All I Want For Christmas Is. . .

All I Want For Christmas Is. . . I don’t know.  Please please please, don’t think I’m sad or angry or depressed because I’m not, it’s just really really hard to come up with something Santa can get for me because there is so very little I can do. Read More Here

Honesty Doesn’t Mean Depressed

Okay so I’ve been getting some messages that some people think I’m sad, or withdrawn, I’m not, I’m just being honest. Read More Here

Finding & Believing In A Purpose

What’s my purpose?  I think at some point everyone has wondered what’s their purpose in this journey called life right, well, me too, especially now.

We’ve all heard about those “aha moments” that so many people have that defined their purpose, helped them gain insight into their purpose, well for me, I was waiting for my “aha moment” before living this life #paralyzed and now I’m really waiting on it.

I’m beyond blessed to have a WONDERFUL man by my side for nearly 14 years!  Since becoming paralyzed 2.5 years ago my honey has had to do all the things I use to do (cook [although I didn’t cook much, I believe in supporting the local businesses, i.e. local restaurants, LOL], clean, laundry, etc.) all while holding down a full time job while I sit in this #wheelchair all day in our living room.   So now I’m left wondering not only what is my overall purpose in life but what do I bring to our relationship.

Now, without a doubt, my honey continues to tell me, every day, 5x a day, he loves me, he will do absolutely anything for me, he’s always making me smile & laugh and he tells me I’m a valuable part of “us.”
If I am honest with myself, before becoming paralyzed it was me that wrote out the checks & paid the bills, it was me that wrote out holiday/birthday cards, it was me that picked out and shopped, mostly online, for our household goods, it was me that remembered dates of events or appointments, it was me that reminded him of when cars needed to be inspected, if we were doing a vacation, it was me that researched the location, booked the activities, booked our lodging, etc. all this to say that for many years our motto was, and still is, “I’m the brains, he’s the brawn” so if that’s still the same, I wish I could get past feeling so useless. It’s a slow process for sure, but I’m thankful to have my honey, always loving, always encouraging, always here!

As always, I wish you days filled with wonder – take a minute to wonder what it is that made you smile today!

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The Benefits & Cost$ of #Accessible #Independence

The benefits & costs of accessible independence can be out of reach for some people.  For me, I’m lucky & thankful that my honey is very handy Read the rest of this entry »

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