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Archive for the ‘My Thought of the Day’ Category

Out of Sight…Out of Mind


I wonder if he thinks of me?   I wonder if he wonders how I’m doing?    I wonder if he’s enjoying summer vacation with his wife and children?    I wonder if he realizes the damages from that fateful day.    I wonder if he knows how many lives are now affected, changed forever, never to be repaired.       

1,095 days since. . .

June 21, 2016 marked the beginning of the end in many ways. That fateful day set me and my family on a journey none of us were prepared for or expected.

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Random Thoughts. . .

I’ve found the funny thing about “random” thoughts is they aren’t so “random” after all… after doing a Google image search on these “random” thoughts/feelings I discovered others must have them too because there they were, staring right back at me, sad really, that these “random” thoughts aren’t so “random.”

Gone Are The Days of Hosting Out of Town Family & Friends…

As we all enjoy these days of spring, many begin to plan their summer vacations. Many will do beach trips or island retreats or many whose family is far a trip home for quality time is perfect. Continue Reading Here

Who Is That Woman In The Mirror

I am not the same person I used to be. I look in the mirror only to see a stranger looking back at me, at the me that used to be.

I don’t know how to enjoy life anymore, I can’t do the things that I used to bring joy to me, I can’t plant in my garden, I can’t meet “friends” for girls night, I can’t go shopping for gifts for anyone (tell me, how do you order an Easter basket fully put together online?), etc., etc., etc. Nothing matters. Continue Reading Here

When My Health Affects His

STRESS, 😬it’s there, we all have it, can’t stop it, can’t change it, but when my honey’s health is now affected because of me, well, tell me, how am I supposed to deal with that?

He loves me I know, he worries about me it’s true, he stresses over us, what can I do? Continue Reading Here

HELLO. . . I Can Speak For Myself

Lately I’ve been finding myself getting more and more frustrated 😠 when I get treated different when my honey and I are out.” I’m finding more and more people talk about me as if I wasn’t there when I’m right there!

Last week we went to the dry cleaners so I could have a few pieces altered and the seamstress looked directly at my honey and asked “can she try this on”? EXCUSE ME. . . do you not see me?????

Does she need this, can she do that, does she what to do this, at the risk of being rude I feel I need to start responding with “HELLO, I’M SITTING RIGHT HERE AND CAN SPEAK FOR MYSELF!”

So what is it that makes people feel I’m not capable of speaking for myself, is it the wheelchair, is it because I’m a person of short stature or is it a combination of the fact that I am a person of short stature who happens to be in a wheelchair? I struggle to answer that because I simply just don’t know.

I had a very successful career for 30 working at the headquarters of a national non-profit organization. Ending my career I was a Director responsible for generating millions of dollars annually which required a great deal of contract negotiating to come to a mutually beneficial agreement. So, if I somehow managed to think for myself and speak to others for 55 years, why now all of a sudden do people think it’s okay to speak as if I’m not “sitting” right in front of them!

As always, I wish you days filled with wonder – take a minute to wonder what it is that made you smile today!

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Because I Say So….

I guess I could be positive and say, oh they are just trying to help, but I’m tired of people ALWAYS (at least feels like always) contradicting what I say or negatively commenting on something I ask their help with. Why is it okay to make someone feel like no matter what they say or no matter what they ask for is open to contradiction! Continue Reading Here

Earth Day & Going Green, What Does it Mean?


Flowers along a roadside in Maine-2008
Flowers along a roadside in Maine-2008

Earth Day is tomorrow, April 22, 2009 – going green is being talked about,  discussed and displayed everywhere.   Even ABC changed their logo on television last night to green – but, my wondering mind asks what does it all mean?  How willing are people to really truly go green?  How many luxuries are people willing to give up to really truly go green?  I’ve asked myself, what is it that I can do different today than yesterday that will help me be more green?  What, maybe change light bulbs – but in order to do that, I would have to purchase new light fixtures for some of my lighting.  So again, how willing are people to go green, to what expense? 

2009 marks the 39th year for Earth Day, which surprised me, I had no idea Earth Day was started in 1970.  For me, I was only 9 in 1970 but for anyone 39 or younger,  going green and recycling is a way of life, they know no different.  

I came across an opportunity to Win $20,000 to Put Your Green Idea Into Action!  SunChips and National Geographic have joined forces to create the Green Effect, an initiative to inspire people to take small steps for big change. 

There are even some fun Earth Day 2009 Crafts, Enviornmental Games and Recycling Activities for the young to enjoy.  These are the types of activites that will instill a lifetime of practicing going green and recycling. 

Going green won’t be something that has to be learned, as it is for anyone (or most) 39 or older, but it is a basic as brusing your teeth. 

Happy Earth Day Everyone!

Because it is a good thing to do. . .

The 100K Twitter challenge!

The 100K Twitter challenge!

Hey all you Twitter fans – I’m sure you have seen that Hugh Jackman posted on Twitter that he is going to give $100.k to someone’s charity. Please send a compelling passionate tweet to @realhughjackman and tell him why he should donate to March of Dimes in 140 characters or less. Here are two very compelling tweets and

Thank for helping to save babies and prevent birth defects.