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STRESS, 😬it’s there, we all have it, can’t stop it, can’t change it, but when my honey’s health is now affected because of me, well, tell me, how am I supposed to deal with that?

He loves me I know, he worries about me it’s true, he stresses over us, what can I do? Continue Reading Here

Lately I’ve been finding myself getting more and more frustrated 😠 when I get treated different when my honey and I are out.” I’m finding more and more people talk about me as if I wasn’t there when I’m right there!

Last week we went to the dry cleaners so I could have a few pieces altered and the seamstress looked directly at my honey and asked “can she try this on”? EXCUSE ME. . . do you not see me?????

Does she need this, can she do that, does she what to do this, at the risk of being rude I feel I need to start responding with “HELLO, I’M SITTING RIGHT HERE AND CAN SPEAK FOR MYSELF!”

So what is it that makes people feel I’m not capable of speaking for myself, is it the wheelchair, is it because I’m a person of short stature or is it a combination of the fact that I am a person of short stature who happens to be in a wheelchair? I struggle to answer that because I simply just don’t know.

I had a very successful career for 30 working at the headquarters of a national non-profit organization. Ending my career I was a Director responsible for generating millions of dollars annually which required a great deal of contract negotiating to come to a mutually beneficial agreement. So, if I somehow managed to think for myself and speak to others for 55 years, why now all of a sudden do people think it’s okay to speak as if I’m not “sitting” right in front of them!

As always, I wish you days filled with wonder – take a minute to wonder what it is that made you smile today!

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This past weekend we celebrated both my mother’s 80th birthday and St. Patrick’s Day…let me say I “celebrated” on the outside and cried on the inside. Continue Reading Here

Sadly #paralysis takes away the spontaneous touch that says you matter or the unexpected hug that says I’m so glad to see you and worse, the needed caress that says I’m sorry. Continue Reading Here

Snow, it’s a fact of life if you live in a northern state in the USA, snow, it’s one of the four seasons, snow, it went from fun, exciting to fear and dreading another snow event. Continue Reading Here

Sad but true, forced to rely on other people to do everything for you, completely strips you of your identity as a person in so many ways. Continue Read Here

I guess I could be positive and say, oh they are just trying to help, but I’m tired of people ALWAYS (at least feels like always) contradicting what I say or negatively commenting on something I ask their help with. Why is it okay to make someone feel like no matter what they say or no matter what they ask for is open to contradiction! Continue Reading Here

Being unable to do things and unable to go places with the “friends” you once had makes it very difficult to be social, hence comes social #isolation. Sadly after a life altering situation many, perhaps even most, people will eventually end up isolated and alone due to no fault of their own. Continue Reading Here

A girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do right, and for me that means SHOPPING!

Seriously though, while I do like shopping, I’ve found that wearing jeans and slacks just aren’t as practical for me, not on a regular basis at least.  #Accessibility is not always about ramps for easy/accessible entry.  For me, dresses & skirts are my new “go to” attire. Read More

All I Want For Christmas Is. . . I don’t know.  Please please please, don’t think I’m sad or angry or depressed because I’m not, it’s just really really hard to come up with something Santa can get for me because there is so very little I can do. Read More Here