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I Hope You Dance. . .

Mother’s Day. . .a special day to show our Mother’s extra thanks, extra appreciation and most importantly extra 💖.

Not being a mother myself, I can only guess what my mother must have thought that Thursday morning back in 1961. I’ve since been told that on that Thursday morning, the doctors said “she has skin like ivory and jet black hair like her Mommy,” BUT, she is the same as her brother. Immediately my Father said “it’s us 4 and no more.”

What must my mother have thought? Perhaps it was will she walk? Will she be able to go to school like other children? Will she have friends? Will she have a career? Will she find love? I’m certain of a few thoughts I know she had, I will LOVE her, I will SUPPORT her, I will ENCOURAGE her all the days of my life. My mother has done that and so much more.

My mother, together with my father, instilled in me a sense of belonging, a fierce belief in myself and unconditional love. I was encourage to do everything and anything I thought I could do. I was supported through every decision I made and experience I had. I was loved, and am still loved!

My mother stood proud as I graduated high school, got my first car, secured my first job, purchased my own home all with a big smile on her face and open arms showing approval of my accomplishments.

Now ii’s supposed to be my turn to SUPPORT her, my time to ENCOURAGE her, mostly my time to THANK her. Sadly, I’m now limited as to how much I can do to support and encourage her. Sadly, all those questions she must have had back on that Thursday morning in 1961 were resurrected on that fateful day in June 2016, the day I became #paralyzed at the hands of surgery gone wrong. What must she have wondered? Will she ever walk again? Will her man stay by her side or will he leave her? Will she be happy ever again?

We are now nearly 4 years since life in a #wheelchair became my new normal. Thankfully I have my mother’s love, support and belief in me to help me adjust. So as this Mother’s Day has pasted, I’m reminded of all the WONDERFUL times I have spent with my mother and then suddenly I remembered this very special gift she gave me years ago. She’s a little old and tired (my gift), her mouth & head don’t move anymore but she still sings to me.

 I Hope You Dance By: Lee Ann Womack 
I hope you never lose your sense of wonder You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger May you never take one single breath for granted God forbid love ever leave you empty handed I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance 
I hope you dance  ~  I hope you dance
 I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance Never settle for the path of least resistance Livin' might mean takin' chances, but they're worth takin' Lovin' might be a mistake, but it's worth makin' Don't let some Hellbent heart leave you bitter When you come close to sellin' out, reconsider Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance (Believe in yourself) 
I hope you dance (Trust in your heart 💗)
I hope you dance (Experience all you can while you can)  I hope you dance 
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance Dance 
I hope you dance ~ I hope you dance

As always, I wish you days filled with WONDER ~ take a minute to WONDER what it is that made you smile today!

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We are now 2 months or so with the majority of people attempting to adjust to a “new normal” life amidst #COVID19. While I understand that living a “new normal” lifestyle isn’t easy, doesn’t come naturally and surely isn’t fun, I’ve come to understand and realize that life goes on, whether we like it or not, even when this “new normal” is forced upon us. For me, my “new normal” of #living_this_paralyzed_life was forced on me at the hands of surgery gone wrong that fateful day in June 2016, nearly 4 years ago. Continue Reading Here

Uncertain Times

The #COVID19 #virus 🦠 is now affecting all our lives in ways we never would have imagined just 4 months ago. Ironically, #paralysis is now affecting my life in ways I would never have imagined just 4 years ago. Continue Reading Here

Social Distancing Is The New Normal. . . Welcome to My World

Odd really, as I sit here in this #wheelchair, as I have done for the past !,370+ days (since June 21 2016), I have once again become keenly aware of my own unplanned #social_distancing forced upon me back in 2016,

Without a doubt the mandated lock downs and mandatory social distancing orders put in place in an effort to flatten the curve of this horrible #COVID_19 virus are necessary and I’m sure for many very stressful. Continue Reading Here

When My Health Affects His

STRESS, 😬it’s there, we all have it, can’t stop it, can’t change it, but when my honey’s health is now affected because of me, well, tell me, how am I supposed to deal with that?

He loves me I know, he worries about me it’s true, he stresses over us, what can I do? Continue Reading Here

Adjusting to Celebrating. . .

This past weekend we celebrated both my mother’s 80th birthday and St. Patrick’s Day…let me say I “celebrated” on the outside and cried on the inside. Continue Reading Here

Snow = A Love to Hate Life Story

Snow, it’s a fact of life if you live in a northern state in the USA, snow, it’s one of the four seasons, snow, it went from fun, exciting to fear and dreading another snow event. Continue Reading Here

What is #Isolation

Being unable to do things and unable to go places with the “friends” you once had makes it very difficult to be social, hence comes social #isolation. Sadly after a life altering situation many, perhaps even most, people will eventually end up isolated and alone due to no fault of their own. Continue Reading Here

All I Want For Christmas Is. . .

All I Want For Christmas Is. . . I don’t know.  Please please please, don’t think I’m sad or angry or depressed because I’m not, it’s just really really hard to come up with something Santa can get for me because there is so very little I can do. Read More Here

“Wondering” What Defines #Disabled…

“Wondering” what defines disabled? The word #disabled, in my opinion, is, in part, a mindset. According to Merriam-Webster, Definition of disabled: 1a : impaired or limited by a physical, mental, cognitive, or developmental condition: affected by disability. Read More